Sounds like they are "great" at present buying!
Sounds like they are "great" at present buying!
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
They got me an insulated backpack for picnics, a picnic blanket and an outdoor eating set. We have outdoor stuff and they know this as we used it last year for T's half birthday, we already have a huge picnic blanket, and I already have a backpack I use for every thing we take on days out. Not to mention I really don't like the one his mum chose. And after a bit of research, it turns out they wasted £52 on all that so now I'm feeling like a right ungrateful cow and absolutely horrible for not liking any of it. They've easily spent around £100 on me and I feel so uncomfortable. I would much rather have just had a couple of books and that's it. I feel like a horrible person for not being more appreciative
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Can I offer an alternative view? For years, Si was useless at buying me presents. He had no idea what to do (one Christmas he bought me a hairdryer….. he’s now banned from buying me household appliances unless I specifically ask for them). He ended up, in his words, ‘throwing money at the problem’. It didn’t work. Eventually, I would send him a list of various thing I might like and he would pick and choose from the list. Thankfully, after 23 years, he’s got the hang of it.
It sounds to me that’s what’s J’s parents are doing. They haven’t known you long and so are still unsure of what you would like so look at what you do and what you have already and go from there. Buying outdoor stuff, when they know that’s what you both like, probably felt like a safe option. As for not buying books, hunni, to most people buying someone books who already has stacks that they haven’t yet found time to read, might seem like the wrong thing to do. They haven’t quite got ‘you’ and that actually having that book in your hands brings you joy. Maybe next year it might be easier for everybody if you do two things - write a list of the sort of things you would love to have, and set a price limit for everybody on presents.
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.