Hey Suzi,

Thanks for the reply. It's always good to have an objective opinion and an overview from someone else. I just hate the psychological model of self esteem development. It's Ike a shield around you that can take knocks and eventually crack. Some people have a thicker shield and different people can be more immune to insults. We are products of nurture and nature and unfortunately I'm too sensitive.

I was just wondering how to quickly boost self esteem in the short term as I have had a depressive reaction and am taking benzos and sleeping a lot.


Weird thing is I think I'm average looking and have had complements from women, never had too many gf issues. I'm a pretty big guy. Just men being childish.

I've always thought a 'real' man whatever that is with regard to kids is one who raises them not sires them. Loads of men have kids they don't raise or are involved in in supportive way.


Saw him again on Saturday and he didn't say boo to a goose.

Thanks for the kind remarks.
Best of health to everyone.

M x