Hunni, I really think that this isn't your responsibility - surely he should be doing this. I know he's working, but maybe, just maybe he needs to either not go into work or actually stay up late and sort it. He appears to not be dealing with any of moving her stuff out unless you are prompting him or doing it for him..... The same as him not telling that children about you... You're a much more patient person than I am. I couldn't live like that....
I worry that you're not valuing yourself as important enough to be put first and counted.....
