I struggled when Katies dad remarried, even though I’d remarried and we had Jess. As Suzi says, it’s normal to feel that grief for what could have been. But of course it’s tough for you . Thankfully, though, this is one of the final ‘events’ in their relationship that will affect him

Why wait til before Christmas? Particularly as kids are overly excited and emotional during December. Why can’t he tell them now?