When I was growing up, particularly during my teen years, my dad had to say to me on a regular basis - it’s not what you say, it’s the way you say it. As I’ve grown up, I’ve tried to remember that as I interact with everyone in my life. It’s not easy for me and I’ve failed far too many times, because my natural instinct is to say exactly how I feel, but I’m grateful to him for teaching me that. Online, it should in theory be easier as I’ve got the opportunity to look at what I’m saying before I post (though even then I do get it wrong sometimes) and I try to consider how I’d feel if someone had said that to me.
I’m sure you don’t mean to upset or anger people but, looking at all the comments that have been posted over the last few days, it’s clear that many members are seeing what you say very differently to what you mean them to see. Perhaps, then, taking some time to look over your comments before posting, and more closely consider the impact they could have on other members, could mean they’d be misinterpreted less often?
