Oh hunni, what a horrible situation you’re in. I’m going to be blunt, sorry. First, H is being completely unfair if she expects you to have to deal with all this stress without the support of others. You shouldn’t have to deal with this alone. Second, you’ve been supporting H and A for a long time - you’ve provided a roof over their heads, employed them, given them financial support and taken on a lot of care for H. They’re adults and it’s about time they acted like it. And they’re repaying you like this? I’m actually disgusted by what has been going on. Perhaps it’s time they stood on their own two feet and moved out.

I’m sorry you’re struggling to deal with your grief at the moment. But, much as H has hurt you, would you want her to feel the same way as you are right now, if you didn’t go on with your life?