I agree with Paula.
Pen, you're normally good with figures and the amount you worry about them... I'd be very surprised if you were this wrong about how much money you are missing...... If it wasn't him and it wasn't you then that leaves H and I don't see her stealing from you when she knows the effect that worrying too much has on you.......
Sweetheart how can you have someone who thinks you are a "right bitch" and someone who "slacks around the house"? It's YOUR home love. You have to feel safe and live with those you can trust.