Hi Sissy.
Really sorry for the delay in thanking you for you lovely, thoughtful and wise post. I have been in a lot of pain and codeined up so not ideal for typing! I saw the surgeon on Monday. Although it is quite a well displaced fracture he thinks I may get away without surgery. I have a review in a couple of weeks. I am a fool though. I don't learn my lessons. My sister calls me Frank Spencer and friend Mr Topsy Turvy! Weird ly my mood has lifted a little as the pain has worked as a cognitive distraction. I'm trying to be healthy and engage in gentle exercises may go to the Spa tomorrow.
You are correct about finding a purpose and validation. That's what I have to do next. I have a few leads like gardening etc I also love animals and especially cats. I miss mine. She died a few years back nearly 20 years old! I'd like another but have no space here.
I have a backpacking trip booked for Eastern Europe in about 10 days, hopefully the pain will be manageable. I do need to mature a bit though and not cycle intoxicated. Next time it could be my brain or spine. I'm going to try Escitalopram on my return and carry on with the ACT. You're correct Suzi it is a good therapy.
I wholeheartedly agree with all the suggestions and sentiments.
Thanks Paula and Suzi for the good wishes too. Hope you're well.
Bye for now and be well.
M