It might have a lot more to do with the people you know, than you specifically. Could that be possible?
It's something my husband has been working through with the new mh team - it's whether things really are as he thinks they are.. Generally they aren't - it's "just" that he perceives some one to be behaving/acting in a specific way...
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IT's got nothing to do with luck. My husband is one of the most amazing people I've ever met. He's had so much to deal with since he was a baby... It's about working what his triggers are, where his issues really lie (mostly his zero amount of self esteem) and that's so hard. I'd ask you to not be so flippant please..
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I think a person with low self-esteem can get int the habit of attracting the wrong people and clinging to people who do them no good. When that person needs a bit of support then guess what - all those people we have supported and considered your friends are nowhere to be seen.
I have friends who will never ask me how I am, I've learnt to really reduce people like that in my life and only keep the ones who genuinely make my life better even if they are not great friends. I did spend alot of energy on people like that in the past. Now, I have people who care and ask after me, the number of those people has increased, actually since I stated being more honest about my struggles. Perhaps admitting I am not perfect has made me more likable. I try harder with people but I am more ruthless too.
So, what this post is trying to say is, that good people are out there and you deserve good friendships, but you have to let yourself have them, and stay away from (or decrease the number of) people who aren't good friends.
Thank you. The thing is as we grow older our friendship circles change and it seems that naturally those friends around us change too. I have friends from my primary and secondary schools on my FB - I couldn't tell many of them how things really are and how I really feel... Yet I've made friends online who I can tell anything to and I know that if I called them then they'd do whatever they could to be there. But I also really believe that you have to try really hard to be able to find positive things about you. If you can't find positives about you then you are always going to believe that you aren't good enough and are unlovable etc...
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Got stood up again today. It's very much been a week or 2 of trying to connect with people and having nothing come back to me.
Sorry about that - how are you trying to meet people?
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