She told me she felt that way because she didn't feel as if she had any real friends, I don't think she's getting bullied at school just having a hard time fitting in. There's a checking in evening tomorrow to talk to their tutor about how they're fitting in so I'm going to ask her about this program I know they do (my friends daughter went last year) that's all about confidence building and see if they can sign her up for that. We're at the doctors tonight at ten past 4, she's really nervous about going but she knows it's for the best. Thank you all so much for your kind words, deep down I know it's not my fault but I can't stop blaming myself anyway