We do.. We've spent the last week with him being angry and irritable without so much as a reaction as we are doing our best to accept things..

I am not implying he's not trying at all.. I am simply trying to reinforce to him that he's not completely lost or a lost cause.. I am trying my best to make him feel better.. I've never ever said to him to pull himself together.. I simply meant in the sense that for a whole week he couldn't feel anything aside from anger and that meant he couldn't laugh or smile whereas yesterday he didn't feel anger so felt like he could.laugh or smile so surely it's progress..

To be honest then I am even more lost on what I should or shouldn't say.. He opens up to me and tells me he's feelikng crappy and he's a lost cause so naturally I try to make him feel better by pointing out that he isn't..

I guess I am just not good at any of this and probably am just making him worse from the sounds of things...

There doesn't seem to be any right way to do this.. Only multiple wrong ways...