maybe you could be a bit more thoughtful about what other people might want to read, your last post was really distasteful, and if you really need to say things like that you could do it more privately.
maybe you could be a bit more thoughtful about what other people might want to read, your last post was really distasteful, and if you really need to say things like that you could do it more privately.
and if your home life is so dysfunctional you are a grown up - take responsibility and move.
SA89 Your use of asterisks is not acceptable or is the language you use. You have been warned on many occasions. This is your last warning before I take further action. You are not here as a given right, and I will not have such disgusting use of such misogynistic phrases or such demeaning comments any more. I am also sending this message to you as a PM. I will ban you if you ignore me again.
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Sorry, I thought blankin swearin was ok compared to spacin it out, I wasn't aware swearing was forbidden full stop. In my last post I quoted my brothers gf for a reason, I'm as disgusted as u are with what she said. How is that misogynistic when I was quotin her?. U warned me before about apparently being demeanin & I've been respectable ever since. How did I ignore ur warnings if I took all that on board? u guys even thanked me for doin so!Originally Posted by Suzi
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You did, but then you slipped back into text speak. I don't think that it's just the swearing, it's the tone of your posts - the aggression, the way that you are using phrases which are just not appropriate.
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
I think perhaps rather than discussing things in detail - ie what your brothers girlfriend was saying - you could just say that she was being disgusting or offensive rather than sharing those words with us as sometimes its not necessary to have the words as exactly they are said.
I think you really need to sort out your situation; get a full-time job and get your own place away from your brother.
Your brother's girlfriend sounds pretty gross. Pretty much every post I hear your frustration about your living situation, I really think if you can fix that you'll feel loads better.
everythin is centred around my social life frustrations rose, If I moved out i'd be even more lonely away from my mum.. I've felt anxious since childbirth (bein alone on school breaks etc..). Every1 around me keeps tellin me 'u need a girl in ur life, wen r u gettin a gf, what u gonna do with ur life..'. I'm sick of it..
I understand being close to your mum. I'm 41 and my mum and I are best friends. I've always turned to her straight off for help and support. However, one year ago my mum and dad moved 7 hours drive away to Northumberland. I was devastated, as a lot of people here will attest to. My husband, however, was convinced it'd be good for me, that I was too reliant on her. One year on, and I can see he was right. We're still close, and speak to each other a lot, but I've managed without her, have become much more self sufficient and, though I still wish they hadn't moved, I've survived!
You might surprise yourself how you cope without her, after all it's what we're supposed to do - leave and make our own lives
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
I don't think a girlfriend is the answer to your problems. You need to change. As said before, move out. Away from your brother. Get your own place. Go and see your mother once a day if you are really close, invite her to your new place. Join a club to build your social life. Be respectful to new made contacts, watch your language, the way you are saying things is important. You don't want to come across as arrogant. Take responsibility for your own life. If your brother is happy with his girlfriend let him be, his choice. It should not effect your life.
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