Anxiety & Depression Hell..*TRIGGERS*

[Paula]

I agree with everyone, you can have an aim of getting to that point. For instance, getting a career. You need to start by looking at your skills and training. Then look at what you'd like to do, and work out if your skillset matches your aim. If not, how can you gain those skills (study perhaps) and so on. 'Getting a career' as the long term aim is brilliant, but is never going to happen if you don't split it down into manageable chunks. It's a bit like a steak - your goal of eating it is fab but you still have to cut it up into mouth sized chunks

[Suzi]

Excellent analogy there love!

[SA89]

So when u finish 1 list do u start another to keep urself 'movin' so to speak?. I'm doing a temporary role at NEXT atm but its only for 2 days. And next week I'm attending a volunteer meeting so thats some progress I guess (though I'm yet to start a list (). I think a lot of peoples depression stems from a basic need of friendship & to be loved. If we didn't have that intense underlyin loneliness the perception of life would be a better place. I'm 25 tommorow & i've no one to celebrate it with other than my mum. How sad is that lol ..

[amaeru]

So when u finish 1 list do u start another to keep urself 'movin' so to speak?.

Yup - well I do anyway.
Some positive steps there hunni. That's great. And Happy Birthday for tomorrow

[Paula]

Happy birthday

[Suzi]

Woohoo! Happy birthday for tomorrow!
So many positives!

[SA89]

I'm starting to feel its impossible for me to be happy or even content. Without friends or prospects it really is impossible to feel anything other than miserable. Money is a constant barrier in realising what little ambition we have. Study fees are ridiculous & jobs are scarce.. NEXT seemed a nice place for 1 days temp work but just like that its gone. An environment to blossom taken away.. I feel like crying but nothing comes out . That 'to-do' list is strugglin to even get off the ground, Its hard to formulate a route of action when all roads are closed off.

[purplefan]

I think you have to start takin things one day at a time. You think you are drowning and sinking deeper and deeper.
One way to deal with the depression is to break your problems down and deal with them one at a time.
I think you need to go back and get your G.P. To look at what treatment is available.
What you are going through is so difficult and you feel lost.
Taking little steps at a time is one way of getting rid of that feeling. Sometimes it is difficult to cry,
Take it a day at a time.

[amaeru]

Have you tried nextstep SA89?

http://www.boltonwise.co.uk/nextstep.htm

[SA89]

ye i'm just f k n sick of people like my mums friends tellin me to 'get out there & socialise!'. I'm 25 now, I get it, I need to sort myself out whatever that means. I know they mean well but I can't just magic friends from pixie dust. People have always liked me as a person yet I've no friends just acquaintances, how does that work out!? . I despise seein couples through sheer envy of what I desperately desire . Without videogames I would probably feel suicidal or more outgoing I dunno. They offer me an escape just like working does, best therapy I have tbh..

I'm still on 20 fluxotine & that makes me drowsy enough so I don't really want to up it. I think they work but its hard to tell. If I was actively making progress then I'm sure they'd be more effective.