It's not "being difficult" at all.... If you were being "difficult" then you'd be doing it because you could or because you want to make things harder for people. I don't see that as it at all. This is learnt behaviour and the course of action which has been the safest for you to adopt in the past. Now, you "just" have to unlearn it to relearn that we love and care for you and we genuinely want to know how you are, not just "I'm fine" and if I have said something to upset you I'd always rather know. Sometimes I just need things spelled out to me a bit more.... Does that make sense?