Dealing with loneliness

[Stella180]

I’m not sure I’m the right person to answer this cos I’ve been single pretty much since the end of 2012, apart from a 7 week lapse in judgement in 2017. I actually enjoy the single life. I mean yeah I do sometimes miss all the things you mentioned on occasions but there are also many positives about being single.

There is such a thing as trying to hard. When you treat every first date as a potential long term party you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. A majority of people you meet just won’t be compatible and that’s ok. I know it’s a bit of a cliche but love often finds you when you least expect it.

[Tom]

Well, if I was trying too hard on the first date that would imply that I even get to that stage. But I always get turned down before that, even if I'm just casually asking for grabbing a cup of coffee or somethng like that.
As far as I know and also have been told, I'm basically doing everything right. Also the friends I spoke with about that are puzzled, it's really frustrating.

Sure, often I'm fine with single life, the freedom and all that, but by now I definitely enjoyed it for long enough and I'd love a change.