Well, if I was trying too hard on the first date that would imply that I even get to that stage. But I always get turned down before that, even if I'm just casually asking for grabbing a cup of coffee or somethng like that.
As far as I know and also have been told, I'm basically doing everything right. Also the friends I spoke with about that are puzzled, it's really frustrating.

Sure, often I'm fine with single life, the freedom and all that, but by now I definitely enjoyed it for long enough and I'd love a change.