First day joining you all. Newby! *SH/AB Trigger*

[Bellat]

Thank you Mira,

Not great and sometimes my own fault. I have good close net of friends and good family however I'm usually the one supporting others so find it difficult to reach out to those close to me.
During lockdown I've been going through domestic abuse with my partner in a emotional, controlling and sexual behaviour. The police were involved twice and he left but due to what he did I was admitted into psychiatric hospital but I couldn't go through with the police charges and here I am now and we are back together and he moved back in, it has been ok but I just can't settle and back sharing a bed together is really hard and triggering and I've not been sleeping well which impacts my mental health hugely.
Feel really stuck and scared about *sh* urges especially when I have had a recent operation because of it and its not healing well and making it harder for myself not to do anything and desperately need support in coping strategies as my usual coping strategies are becoming harder to utilise and work.x

[Tom]

Hi Bellat,
I hope you get through all this and wish you all the best!
I can hardly imagine what you're going through right now. From my perspective, it looks like you need someone close that helps pulling you out of the mud and away from your abusive partner. So you might want to find out a close friend whom you trust the most and reach out to that person, if you haven't already done that. But then again, I don't know the full story, thus you have to decide for yourself whether that's the best thing to do or not.

Besides that, I always found it helpful to just keep your mind busy with something else, be it reading, cooking, or watching tons of movies and series, whatever keeps you distracted is fine, I'd say.
Would you like to share your usual coping strategies? Maybe I can give you some good input.

Also i think this is a great place to find some shelter in dark times (although I'm new here too, the first impression hardly could have been any better ^, so registering here sure was a great idea!

[Paula]

Oh hunni, I’m so sorry .

We’ve got some information on where to find helplines and support for anyone dealing with domestic abuse and you can find it here http://www.dealingwithdepression.co....351#post326351

How are your children dealing with things?