Quote Originally Posted by Mira View Post
Hello, nice to meet you. I am no expert but I did want to reply.

First let me tell you that no one here compares themselfs to others. We all experience things different so there is no way to know who has it worse and who does not. Its not a race. But we do want to be there for each other and help in what way we can. Not proffesional but never the less.

I am sorry to hear what you and your family are going through. One thing I have learned from experience myself is that we can not make people do something they dont want to do. Be that therapy or anything else for that matter.

But maybe there are other things you could do? Instead of bringing up seeing help try to make her and yourself smile again. Find some joy in the small things. Ask her what would make her happy. I can understand how you might feel if its still worth it. Thats why I feel joy and doing something together that you both like will help.
It would be a shame if you both were to get more bitter with each other.

If what I wrote is not helping at all please disregard it. I was trying to think out aloud.
Hi thanks for your reply. I probably put my point across badly in my opening paragraph. I should have said, "I believe we're on a journey and I hope we're nearing the end of that journey". I have to believe this will all get better (to a point) one day that it won't rule our lives.

Yes I quite agree you can't get someone to do something they don't want to do. However, I honestly believe people can be motivated to do something one way or another. Now, that's not supposed to sound sinister. But I have got my wife to do things again that she once previously refused to do. All I have to do is answer the question - What would make her sit there and say to herself "I'm going to go and talk to someone and take it seriously".

Ask her what would make her happy - I would never ask that as the response would be "for my legs to work again" and the mood would darken. I know what makes her happy, but ultimately they're all sticky plasters over the real problem. she also has a self destructive nature is so far that if you told her she couldn't hand write anything again shed suddenly want to send hundreds of hand written letters.

Please keep it coming.