I went to the doctor earlier today. After not being able to remember a lot of my life when I lived with her things started to come back - not about her in particular but the living conditions and the way the house was. Normally there is no emotion by the memories, but all of a sudden these memories did. I began to be able to see them and all of a sudden everything would go blurry, my heart would start beating fast and I would have to hold onto something. Each day has been getting worse. I went in and he asked me how I was and I began to cry. I started to explain and his first question was, 'Do you still live with your mother?'. When I said no he remembered and just seemed confused. He thought I was just concerned that I could no longer remember much about her, particularly when I said the fact I can't remember much doesn't bother me, it's more when I am able to remember things. He asked me so many times if she was violent towards me, each time I said yes but he was still confused. He said I had already had bereavement counseling so he doesn't know what more I can do. When I said her death isn't really the problem he just raised his eyebrows. Why can't people understand that that is just a very small part of a very long story? It wasn't my punishment but my way out. He just kept looking through a book with lots of different instructions and numbers to call and just kept saying - 'I don't know what to do'. He particularly emphasised that the fact that the abuse is not going on anymore meant that there were lots of things he couldn't do for me. He stared at this number for ages and then said - 'well...there is this number here but it is for domestic abuse which I guess yours would fit under but I'll just phone them to check'. He has referred me to someone specialising in domestic abuse but I feel utterly embarrassed. I'm afraid something will be said to my grandmother as he sees her often. It took a lot for me to go today and I thought I'd come out feeling better but I've actually just come out worse and feel that again it is much easier to pretend it never happened. It seems as if no one can look beyond the fact that she's dead and that that must be the cause of all of my problems yet regardless of whether that happened or not I'd still feel this way.