I do know how hard it is with daughters. I have 2 and I mentioned my youngest to you - we had all sorts of issues and she was vile to me for a very long time. I tried very hard to hold on to the good during that time (wasn’t always possible and she made me cry, a lot, but I tried) and actually she’s grown into an awesome, independent, responsible young woman. There is good in your post - she’s going to the workshop and she’s engaging with the young women’s group. I get how tough this is, and I know the impact on your mental health, but your little girl is still there