Hi and welcome. I've edited your thread title so I could add a trigger warning. It's nothing to worry about, it's just some people may find what you've discussed will trigger them and this just gives them a warning to avoid here if they're feeling vulnerable.

I really empathise with your girlfriend. I went through very similar with my ex and it makes it very hard to trust again. It sounds like you're doing a lot to support her though, it may take a lot of time but what you're doing will help. With regards to the counselling, I'm afraid she won't get the most out of it unless she engages fully, it could be a trust issue which stopped her opening up and that will take time to overcome with a therapist.

You're doing a lot to be there for her, but don't forget to look after you too