Hi and welcome to DWD. Let me reassure you that you will never be told to "snap out of it" or "push on through it"... What I will say is that I've never met you, but all I want to do is reach in and give you the biggest hug. I know that right now things are seeming really bad, but it doesn't always have to be like this. I promise you that you won't be invisible here. We care about our members and I've made such close friends that it becomes closer than family.
For what it's worth, you don't come across as a loser at all to me.
Do you have any friends/family as support?