Why don't you learn to tie your laces, do the washing, cook a basic but lovely meal - a roast dinner is easier than you think or a stew which can be made in the morning and cook all day in a slow cooker? The only way that things will change is if you make them change..
All of my children can do washing, hang it out, they can all cook at least a basic meal - try pasta bake if a roast dinner is too much mentally right now and that's because a) it's my job to teach them to be independent b) there are days I can't physically do things like the washing so need help c) they have to learn to clean up the mess that they make too! If they can all do it so can you.
You are the one with the control to make changes to aspects you don't like. It's up to you.
