Depression, loneliness & excessive worry*SH Trigs*

[SA89]

I went in the kitchen today at 7am to find 2 head young adults drinking and smoking. My mum was in bed and they were in my kitchen all night from about 2am. They were friends of my brother & apparently there was more of them. I sat with them for 3 hours until after 10am. They were rambling & the 19 year old girl looked rough as . She had slash marks on her wrist from slitting her wrists & had been in & out of care. The audacity of these strangers to use my mums house as their "gaffe". They kept saying to me how I've no confidence & how "its not all about looks" to basically imply that I'm ugly yet she looked like the rough end of a badgers arse. I told my mum but she's too soft & she has her Lupus to deal with. This is why I'm desperate to move out but I'm low priority on the council housing list so I'm trapped. I desperately need my own independence ..

Have you thought about going into a charity shop or so and asking? What about something like bar work? How are you finding the volunteering positions? I've had a quick look and have seen a fair few....

I got in touch with the Strive Project the other day about volunteering as a receptionist. I also applied to volunteer at the citizens advice. I've volunteered at Band previously, need to delve into the others. Looking for admin experience but not sure how to go about it. The behavior tutoring I did in 2016 was 1 of the most rewarding things ive ever done. I'd love that as a career .

[Suzi]

I've added a trigger warning due to some of your comments in this post

I went in the kitchen today at 7am to find 2 head young adults drinking and smoking. My mum was in bed and they were in my kitchen all night from about 2am. They were friends of my brother & apparently there was more of them. I sat with them for 3 hours until after 10am.

Why did you sit with them? Who let them in? Why didn't you ask them to leave?

They were rambling & the 19 year old girl looked rough as . She had slash marks on her wrist from slitting her wrists & had been in & out of care. The audacity of these strangers to use my mums house as their "gaffe". They kept saying to me how I've no confidence & how "its not all about looks" to basically imply that I'm ugly yet she looked like the rough end of a badgers arse. I told my mum but she's too soft & she has her Lupus to deal with. This is why I'm desperate to move out but I'm low priority on the council housing list so I'm trapped. I desperately need my own independence ..

The thing is your Mum will have to deal with it because at the end of the day as her name is on the tenancy she is liable for everything that happens - including illegal activity. Also, sad to say that if she was to be evicted due to antisocial behaviour of her visitors and your brother that (certainly in my area) you are not eligible for council housing as you are over 18 and as a single man you aren't eligible for housing until after 25... Your area might be different...

I got in touch with the Strive Project the other day about volunteering as a receptionist. I also applied to volunteer at the citizens advice. I've volunteered at Band previously, need to delve into the others. Looking for admin experience but not sure how to go about it. The behavior tutoring I did in 2016 was 1 of the most rewarding things ive ever done. I'd love that as a career .

What about temping for something like Office Angels? That would pay and give experience and you don't have to stay at each placement too long if you don't want to....