I agree with Paula, Suzi and Flo. I have a few chronic conditions. J has been with me every step of the way through getting help from the secondary mental health services here; he's been there without question when I've been suicidal or self-harmed. He's helped me fasten clothes when my RA has flared up and it's caused me considerable pain to try and do it myself. He loves me for who I am. I asked him if he'd ever thought about walking away from me because of how much hard work I can be and his reply was not even for a second because he loves me. He has quite severe depression at the moment himself and is constantly telling me that he has no idea why I love him, that I could do so much better than him. I love him because he is an amazing human being. He doesn't see that but I keep telling him anyway, just as we will keep telling you.
Knowing how dark his head can be doesn't change how I feel about him, knowing how dark my head can be doesn't change how he feels about me. We're both a bit broken but we are helping put each other back together. Depression is such a small part of who either of us are, your illness isn't all of who you are either and the right person will see the incredible man that you are.
