It's ok lovely. I don't think you were rude at all-.gif ")")
It's ok lovely. I don't think you were rude at all
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The panto? Why do they need to go twice? Surely she could take them to one and he and his parents and you when sorted can go at another time? I just don't get it....
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I don't know. I don't know if she's going with his parents next year. Everyone except her is trying to do their best and make things as easy as they can for the children. I can't fault them for that
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I can see that, but surely sending mixed messages to them isn't helpful?
Anyway, right now I'm more concerned about you.....gif "(bear)")
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I'm ok. Plodding mainly.
Anyway, J's friend messaged me tonight. She's got some time off and wants to meet me the Monday after we get back from Manchester
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WTF??? No, love, the circus and panto are several steps too far in my book. The kids know they’re not together anymore and seem to have made their peace with that. They probably know a lot of kids whose parents have split up so will almost certainly know that the norm is not to do things ‘as a family’ anymore. She’s relying on J being the person he is and not wanting to rock the boat when actually, it’s time for him to draw lines in the sand.
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I do know someone who does loads with his son and ex wife, but they're still best friends, they just realised they didn't work together as husband and wife. I know it can be done, I think this is playing with fire though with how toxic she can be but then if it will benefit the children in the long run, I don't want to be the one to say no. Am I being too nice?
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Yes. I don't think this will benefit the children at all. I think he's completely out of order.
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I wouldn't go that far. I know from personal experience how much easier it is to go along with things to avoid arguments when your mental health isn't great. I definitely think he's misguided. Plus T has asked a few times if she can go with them on days out so maybe he genuinely believes it's best for the children. I don't know.
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While I get what you’re saying, protecting your own mental health while potentially confusing and upsetting your children is something I’d struggle justifying
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