I'd be struggling too... It seems odd to me that they keep doing these grand days together..... Massive hugs love, you're definitely not horrible for feeling the way you are.
I'd be struggling too... It seems odd to me that they keep doing these grand days together..... Massive hugs love, you're definitely not horrible for feeling the way you are.
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Jaquaia (14-04-19)
Apparently she messaged him this morning suggesting it and he was thinking about taking them anyway. His reasoning seems to be that if they take them together there won't be any arguments like there was when he took them to the lego exhibition...
Still feel likethough...
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You’re not a horrible person Jaq. It’s a natural response to the situation. I’d find it hard and I’m thinking the same as Suzi, why do they think it’s good for the kids to do these days together?! Big hugs flying your way now.gif "(bear)")
Jaquaia (14-04-19)
I suggested that they carry on doing the panto with the children as it's something the children are used to, and obviously birthdays. But I think days out together will confuse the children. A has already told her to "stop shouting at daddy" even though for once, she hasn't shouted at him, so her behaviour is obviously having an effect on them.
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Take care today hun. Keep posting on here and we’ll all help you get through it.xx
Jaquaia (14-04-19)
I'll be ok. Just feeling sorry for myself
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I just read what happened. I would be struggling too. A lot to be honoust. But you are not a horrible person for feeling that way. As the others have said its a more then normal response. And I agree with you that this is confusing for the children. From age 9 my mum left my stepdad. And thinking back on it I would be confused about what was going on if they did things like this together. Are they still in love? Are they getting back with eachother? Etc etc.
Even if for the adults its all clear it is sending mixed signals to the children.
So to me feeling the way you feel is completly logical and makes sense. But try to be kind to yourself about this situation. This is not on you
Panto this year past fair enough, but the circus? What else are they throwing in? No. I'm sorry love, but I don't see this as being healthy for the children or for him!
I'm with you totally and think this is pushing it... but that's just my opinion...
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Panto this year too. They went to T's parents evening together, his school play too. I can understand that to some extent. It's good for him to see they're there for him. He keeps saying that he wants the deed of separation through as it will tie her hands a bit more legally, I just can't see much changing at the moment.
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