Just been looking over people's posts. I haven't been as active as I should be, so sorry for no input peeps. Jaq...have the divorce wheels been put in motion yet? Or is she dragging her heels? From what I have read, it all sounds a bit unhealthy to me. To some extent I can understand the 'anything for a quiet life' bit, but at some stage, for your well being - and the kids etc - they've got to call it quits and make a sensible split. This could drag on for years! But I hope it doesn't for your sake.