New Member *AB Triggers*

[Suzi]

Hi and welcome to DWD. Paula has asked all the questions I was going to ask!
Are you hoping to be pregnant with your third?

[PandorasBox]

Hi, I wasn't expecting to become pregnant. I wouldn't say no to a third child. I am at the point where things were about to become easier. After 16 years together, my partner and I are finally getting married, and with the help of partners parents we were finally going to buy our first house next year.

My partner and his parents are so supportive in the big stuff, they don't really look at the smaller details like helping out with giving me some free time etc.

My youngest was about to start preschool next year, and I was going to use those 9 hours a week all for myself. Including, trying out therapy of some form.

I know I had post natal depression with my youngest, and I spoke to the doctor and because I was breastfeeding, he told to carry on using food as my crutch and that I could sort of the weight problem later.

I didn't have post natal depression with my oldest, because I was depressed whilst I was pregnant with her. You see, I was made redundant from my job after putting 6 years into the company. Two weeks later, I found out of was pregnant with my first.

No, my big problem is the pregnancy hormones turn me into a really angry and cranky person and I end up shouting a lot, and my eldest is a bit of a wild child, and she rebels when I get shouty, and then I start feeling really bad about the shouting.

In the end, I get scared and depressed the most when I feel like I might be turning into my mum.

My eldest pushes all boundaries all the time, and I suffer from summer SAD, so I find summer holidays to be the worst time of year!

I love winter, and blankets and books!

[Paula]

you’re not turning into your mum, the fact you are aware of the impact on your family, especially your eldest, proves that to me. You obviously love your family and want the best for them. What’s best for them, and for you, whether you’re pregnant or not, is to ask for help from your doctor. I had pre natal depression with my youngest and my midwife was so supportive, I’m not sure I’d have made it through my pregnancy in one piece without her.