Or you can get pillows or headbands which have headphones built in....
You have to start with the basics and make sure you are doing those.
Have you spoken to your partner about how you are feeling? Actually told them that you are struggling? Asked for their support, rather than just assuming you have it?
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Like I said before we don't really talk anymore I think it's just become the norm now,often wonder what we're even doing together anymore, I'm sure it would be easier without me.Originally Posted by Suzi
I've only over the ear headphones atm I'm not on the Bluetooth wagon yet.
john82 (20-10-20)
I'm going to share something with you. I'm not sure if it applies in your situation or not as I know nothing about your relationship.
When my depression was really bad, I thought I wanted to break up my marriage. I didn't have the energy for a relationship, I had nothing to give to anyone, it was just another stressor. We weren't talking, it was something else to feel a failure over, I took my frustration etc out on him. I wasnt sure I was even capable of loving anyone.....especially not myself. My emotions were completely numb.
However, as I started to engage in meds, therapy, etc and was finally able to look outside myself I realised that I still deeply loved my husband. Would he have been better off without me and all the heartache? Maybe, but thing is, he still loved me and wanted me around.
Depression almost made me throw away my relationship because of the illness, not because of us as people.
My husband said, it was the little glimpses he got of the real me at times that kept him going. Maybe just a smile of thanks when he brought me a cup of tea, or seeing me hug the dog helped him remember when I could connect on a deeper level.
My illness nearly ripped us apart and its only his tenacity that kept us together. We are now closer than we ever were.
You may not be feeling great about the state of your relationship but make sure that it's not just the illness talking.
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One of the hardest things I've ever heard is my now husband being honest telling me that he didn't know if he still loved me. He knew he had loved me, but didn't know how he felt there and then. At least I knew. I grabbed hold of him and told him it was OK I loved him enough for both of us and that I'd stand by until he knew definitely how he felt. We've been together for almost 22 years. We still talk about how he feels and how I'm doing.... Talk to her.
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Stella180 (20-10-20)
I find it to hard. I never used to have this problem with previous partners I think it's since my last partner cheated and since then I've never opened up.
10 mins until the call
Trying to think of things I may need to tell them
How was the call?
It's not fair for you to judge your partner based on your last one. Talk to her. Tell her you're finding it tough to open up, but you can feel things slipping away....
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
The call was stressful can't help but think there going to sack me.
OPINION / RECOMMENDATIONS
In my clinical opinion
Mr... is still struggling to leave the house. I am unable to provide an indication of a
return to work date at present. I am hopeful that he may be fit for his role in the coming weeks
with appropriate control of his symptoms and support. I have advised him to contact his GP to try and obtain an earlier appointment. You may wish to consider funding specialist counselling if this
is available.
Recommendations to Manager / HR:
• *Counselling *Some support longer term could include a stress assessment and phased
return with shadowing support) *Occupational Health Physician (OHP) appointment to be
considered if ongoing issues.
Recommendations to Employee:
• *Lifestyle advice *Counselling support- may benefit some specialist counselling if this is
available. *Appears to be engaging with medical support
HML Next Actions:
• *I am unable to provide an indication of a return to work date *Hopeful may be fit in the
coming weeks but not fit to return to work at present. Report copy; same time
I don't see how they offered anything to help me?
I don’t understand why you think that outcome means they’re going to sack you. They’ve said you’re not well enough yet, but that they are hopeful you can in the coming weeks, with the right support. They’ve made positive recommendations and ways for the company to help you. This is a good outcome, lovely
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
I guess it's me automatically thinking the worse again.
I told the lady I didn't want to lose my job as its the only place I've worked and I'm afraid if I lost it then there's no reason to go back outside the house again. I just need support and I can't get any help atm due to covid it's limited to what I can do
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