Mirtazapine effects & mood gym *SU Trigger*

[Mira]

Thing is I don't think there's much they can do, mainly me stressing about work etc. I know there concerned, thing is I don't think any of my family know what to do.

All I can tell them is that I'm struggling badly atm feels like I just want to cry but then I'm thinking am I just looking for sympathy??


I just want to get back to normal and get back on track at the moment it definitely feels like I'm going backwards again and I don't know what to do to get out of it.

I've got my parterns parents coming round 2mos for dinner. I know her mums concerned about me as she's messaged and noticed it boxing day

You are right. They can not fix how you are feeling or take it away. But my family try to comfort me a little more. Send a text every now and then. For me its the little things that count. You are struggling at the moment and you feel like crying. That sounds like a good time for some sympathy. And there is nothing wrong with that. I tend to think its worth encouraging.

I know you want to get back to normal. But it might need some out of the box thinking. And you can not do it alone. You might need help from the people around you.

[john82]

I'll go to work tomorrow and laugh and joke with my friends but I try and talk to them about how I feel and they just don't get it or don't know what to say anymore.

[Mira]

I'll go to work tomorrow and laugh and joke with my friends but I try and talk to them about how I feel and they just don't get it or don't know what to say anymore.

I have that with my best friend. When I tell him how I am doing he does not know what to do or say. I can see it on his face. But he listens and tries. And that means the world to me. And that is what a friend is to me.

[Paula]

You’re not looking for sympathy, you’re looking for support. There is a mountain of difference between the two. And it isn’t about them knowing what to do, it’s about you not shutting out the people who love you and letting them take some of the load. You are doing this alone, and you don’t have to. In fact, it just makes it a thousand times harder for you to deal with

[john82]

You’re not looking for sympathy, you’re looking for support. There is a mountain of difference between the two. And it isn’t about them knowing what to do, it’s about you not shutting out the people who love you and letting them take some of the load. You are doing this alone, and you don’t have to. In fact, it just makes it a thousand times harder for you to deal with

The thing is I've no idea why I'm feeling like this, ended up going doc's as I'd struggled with my mood for years and now it feels like I've opened Pandora's box and can't shut it

[Suzi]

Are you seeing a therapist at the moment? Could you request to be put on the waiting list or bring an appointment first....

[john82]

Are you seeing a therapist at the moment? Could you request to be put on the waiting list or bring an appointment first....

No I'm not seeing anyone at the moment I've been fine just the past month has worn me down, chasing work with my pay loosing esa etc.

I'm seeing the mental health practitioner this Friday so I'll mention it to him. I saw a consultant psychiatrist 2 weeks ago and he mentioned advanced cbt but admitted it could take 12 months before I'm seen.

I also called validium on Christmas day and I should be able to see somebody for 6 sessions but I'm waiting for a call back.

[Suzi]

I don't understand why you lost your ESA? Have you claimed PiP?

[john82]

I don't understand why you lost your ESA? Have you claimed PiP?

Ive lost my ESA due to work paying me wrong for 4 months, ever since I've gone back. I informed the ESA that they kept overpaying me by alot, as I was getting worried.I had a missed call from an unknown number one day then the next payment date nothing and I've been trying to sort it out ever since.

This is what's caused me all the stress work aren't interested there's no hr anymore. I've since had a letter from work my timecard and wage slips which have been sent off to the DWP which took me ages to chase.

I've got all this extra money sat in a different account which I've been trying to pay back for over 3 months.

Work have also been paying me every minute even though nobody else gets paid if they clock in 10 mins early and stay an extra 8 mins it gets rounded down or up. They then denied I'd told them I was limited to 14 hours a week as I didn't want to lose the ESA payment u til I felt ready. They've basically called me a liar and denied all knowledge, even tho I have WhatsApp messages to my manager telling him from November.
Nobody at work is interested, had no monthly meetings I've basically been upping my hours myself.

As you can tell I'm really annoyed and feel let down by work & they'll most likely have a go tomorrow when I tell them I'm dropping my hours as I'm struggling to cope at the minute.

With the work paying me every minute it's pushed me over the 14 hours I'm allowed to work

I was coping fine until all this pay issue I kept telling them it was pushing/stressing me. Its basically been driving me mad for the past few months having to spend hours on the phone chasing people

And yet I'm supposed to be greatful for them not sacking me, I wish they had at the moment all the stress they've caused.

I'm unsure how it's best to approach them tomorrow with me telling them I need to drop my hours

[Suzi]

First of all you need to go and get your esa reinstated - get an appointment with a disability advisor at the jobcentre and show them the messages - print them out if you can.

Then send in an email if you feel more comfortable telling them that you need to cut your hours back as you are feeling that you are not coping with the increased hours and with side effects to a new medication regime.