If you make an appointment with your gp and hand your notes into reception to ask if the gp can have it to look at before your appointment, that can help. Also, it might be worth explaining in the note that you’re not keen on medication to ensure the gp knows to talk about all your options.
WRT your wife, take a look at the Time to Change website https://www.time-to-change.org.uk as there’s good tips on how to talk about your mental health with friends and family