Advice on dealing with loneliness/hopelessness?

[Corvus]

Are you on any meds/having any counselling or CBT? That can help enormously. Also, your local Mind can be a good place to start.

What courses would you like to study?

No medication or counselling. I did see a therapist for a bit but I have severe anxiety as well, so it was too stressful for me in the end. Might try it again if I can, since my anxiety is a bit better now. I've been out of education for so long that I don't really want to do any proper qualification type of courses just yet, just something more relaxed. I love languages so probably a language course, maybe photography or creative writing, one of those kinds of things

What about seeing if the recovery college has any courses you could at least start on?

Can I ask what the physical health issue was/is? You don't have to say of course

Basically I have Celiac disease, which is an autoimmune condition caused by a gluten intolerance. It's kind of caused a lot of extra problems because it has an effect on the whole body, if that makes sense. I had to google recovery college but it actually sounds brilliant. I did want to do a course but I have anxiety so it's a scary thought, but if it's something where others are in a similar position as me, it might be less scary. Thank you

[Paula]

My best friend is coeliac, she was diagnosed when she was 21 after years in and out of hospital. She’s now 48 and has managed to control her illness very effectively. She’s a teacher (and retrained in her 30s) with 2 teenage kids and is heavily involved in the Guiding association. I think what I’m trying to say is that there is the possibility of hope you can control this and have the life you want.

[Corvus]

Hello, and welcome Corvus. I hope you get the energy to go see a doc and get some counceling, at start it can be awful but when the form of medication and therapy working for you is found, it can feel like mountains are lifted off your shoulders. It took me years to find what works for me, but I went from a total trainwreck to something alot less dramatic. I mean ofcourse I am still a hot mess and drive my family up the walls occasionally, but life is tolerable most of the time.

I am an introvert and have difficulties understanding what it is to be lonely, but I see how it affects my oldest son who has severe aspergers and add. It is heart breaking to see how he craves company of others, but have hard time blending In and being accepted. Sites like this Forum here are great. You can find people who get your situation. They understand how depression is nothing like simply feeling blue. I have spent alot of time reading posts here, and it blew my mind how caring complete strangers can be, and how outpouring support you can get here. I am new as well, and rarely post much. But it felt really like having another family around here. It is 5.30 am here now and I can't sleep. Reading people getting help to their stuff helps me when I can't handle myself or simply get overwhelmed with all the feelings and thoughts that got me off guard.

I hope you feel like home as much as I do here, because this forum has helped me more than my weekly sessions with therapist. And don't get me wrong, I have a wonderful one. But getting up and going there, seeing people and having to mimic socially acceptable behaviour just takes its toll on me. Social anxiety is something I can hide, but not get rid of. And it doesn't really help being socially awkward. I can be really blunt without realising it, and people think I am a callous and mean person even I really do care and worry for others. I can write stuff better than say it, so staying home and just texting people seems to save me alot of unpleasant face to face communication.

Please take your time reading posts here, I found them extremely helpful. People have habits and coping methods I never had even thought about, but trying them out, and modificating them was a game changer. Hope we can offer some support to you, and you find ways to ease your loneliness.

-Sissy

Yeah, I'm thinking about doing therapy again, now that my anxiety is better than it used to be, I think I could manage it and it'd hopefully help. I'm actually an introvert too. In school I used to joke that when I left, I'd live my dream life and become a recluse who never left the house. And now that's pretty much my life, and I hate it. I'm socially awkward as well and find it hard to be around people, but I miss it. It's weird. Thanks for sharing your own story and your support, I can already see how friendly and helpful everyone here is

My best friend is coeliac, she was diagnosed when she was 21 after years in and out of hospital. She’s now 48 and has managed to control her illness very effectively. She’s a teacher (and retrained in her 30s) with 2 teenage kids and is heavily involved in the Guiding association. I think what I’m trying to say is that there is the possibility of hope you can control this and have the life you want.

It's great that she's been able to control her illness and do the things she wants to do. I used to put off everything and tell myself I'd do it when I was healthy, but I've recently come to accept that I might never be 100% healthy again. I'm still trying to improve my health, but maybe I'll always be at least a little sick. So I'm going to try to take up hobbies whenever I'm able to instead of waiting for a day that might never come. But it definitely gives me hope to hear how bad it was for your friend and how she's managed to do all these things now, thank you