Hunni, first off I really think you need to talk to your doctor if you’re concerned about the menopause - getting your hormone levels checked will let you answer that concern, one way or another.

As to the anti depressants, that particular type may not work for you but there are many more, different ADs that may suit you better. Please don’t assume that, just because that one was not for you, that they all won’t work. Please just leave an open mind......

Have you considered foster Work?