Intro - Hoping for shared experience/motivation

[Ezra A Adams]

Opinions on showing her what I posted?

I would say, that if you struggle to communicate why not try "cushion dialogue". Start by saying you really want to hear where she is at. And maybe you do the listening first but if not then you have soemthing that needs to be shared

1. Create an enviroment to sit down where there are no distractions
2. Hold the cushion (teddy ..whatever) and ask her to listen to all you have to say. Tell her she is not allowed to comment but just listen.
3. Tell her she must not interupt and just listen.
4. At the end she is not to interpret just repeat what you said so you know she heard.
5. When you are satisfied she has heard then pass the cushion.
6. She can now respond and you must listen, do not interupt
7. When she is finsihed you must repeat what she said - do not comment or reflect
8. When she is happy you have heard, you repeat the process


Sometimes best done with someone making sure no-one butts in and making sure all elements are heard.

On hard topics my wife and I use this technique.