Let's hope it's not Deadly Nightshade!! Sixteen is a funny age with a girl/woman...hormonally they're women, but because of their age they're still regarded as kids! " It's either..."Just remember! You're still a kid!"......or.."You're not a kid anymore..grow up!".....They're supposed to know what they want to do after school....but they're only 16! I hadn't a clue. You might be more alike than you think...hence the clash. They grow out of it. Or as a friend of my mum's used to say. "oh..it's just a phrase!"