Who to talk to??? **su triggers**

[JamieW]

To be honest.... it's highly unlikely i will.... and not just because of the reason outlined...
Basically in a noisy environment (pub/club/restaurant) i completely lose the ability to track peoples speech...

I have excellent hearing, really good frequency response for my age but if you imagine a group of say 6 people around a table in a bar or restaurant with that general background hubub .... i have to really really focus and strain to isolate even the person speaking close to me ...
Therefore in a group scenario i just get lost .... i lose the flow ... so add that to the fact that i don't like operating in 'new' groups and i generally clam up and end up saying nothing and the people on this course are all european (spanish mostly with pretty strong accents) then i just cannot deal with it all combined

[Paula]

Fair enough, I understand as I have the same problem. It’s an anxiety thing - it’s difficult to filter

[JamieW]

Fair enough, I understand as I have the same problem. It’s an anxiety thing - it’s difficult to filter

Is that what it is??? I've had it for a while now (quite a few years) but never twigged on what it was...
I even asked my counsellor (1st one) about it as it is a reason i don't enjoy being out
He'd not heard of it

[Paula]

Is that what it is??? I've had it for a while now (quite a few years) but never twigged on what it was...
I even asked my counsellor (1st one) about it as it is a reason i don't enjoy being out
He'd not heard of it

Yep, rather than a hum of conversation, I hear every single conversation in detail, it seems, and my brain can’t take it. It’s exhausting

[JamieW]

Yep, rather than a hum of conversation, I hear every single conversation in detail, it seems, and my brain can’t take it. It’s exhausting

Different for me .... i simply cannot tune in to who's speaking if there's the hum of conversation around ... it just doesn't 'stand out' for me ... even if i'm intently focussed on them i can usually barely hear them ..... so when you're in a group and the conversation is flipping between people like it does i frankly cannot track it and lose the ability to contribute