Wow, I can't tell you how much of that I could have written 10+ years ago.... I'm glad you've found us. Coincidently I was a trainee teacher when I met my now husband and I worked hard to get my degree and go into teaching and my NQT year etc... I had to give up work for a myriad of reasons, but I miss it so much!

Sweetheart, talk to him. Tell him that you are struggling. There is no excuse for him having had that affair or for treating you badly. OK so you coming home and he hasn't managed to do anything isn't easy to deal with, but maybe you can talk to him about him doing 1 thing - in our house it started with taking the bins out as it's something I struggle with. Then you can build things in.

When was the last time you did something fun for the pair of you - no talking finances, or jobs or anything similar - just fun?