Abuse **Triggers**

[Jarre]

You have to understand Purple that it affects a person very deep down, that comment can be upsetting as what happens to them does control their life and how they act and they are a victim of that form of abuse, the word proud shouldn't even be there, they didn't choose to under go that form of abuse. A person can speak of surviving that abuse but its not something that can be felt as your statement portrays some form of juvilation, we know you didn't mean it, but the wording can be very upsetting to survivors as it downplays the whole thing.

[purplefan]

As i said jarre it was a honest mistake and i meant no offense.

You have to understand Purple that it affects a person very deep down, that comment can be upsetting as what happens to them does control their life and how they act and they are a victim of that form of abuse, the word proud shouldn't even be there, they didn't choose to under go that form of abuse. A person can speak of surviving that abuse but its not something that can be felt as your statement portrays some form of juvilation, we know you didn't mean it, but the wording can be very upsetting to survivors as it downplays the whole thing.

[Suzi]

It's something that has affected me too and it took many years to be able to tell anyone what had happened to me. I'm not proud - but I am proud that I got through it and learnt to trust someone else.. That's why we have a very closed section, because of the shame, the stigma - the "oh you must have done something to provoke it" or "it was different then, it is just what happened" or "well, I had worse happen to me and I just got on with it"...... It's something that people are so afraid to talk about for one reason or another and it's something that I feel very passionately about.

Check this but it might make you cry:



If anyone does feel that they need access to the Abuse Survivor Section then please do pm me, but I am strict about who has access for understandable reasons.

[Jarre]

that video gave me even more respect for Patrick Stewart than I already had.

[Suzi]

Awesome isn't it?

[S deleted]

I remember watching the episode of who do you thing you are when he learned about him father's 'shellshock' and it was interesting how his concept of his father changed knowing that it was an illness that brought about his volatile nature.

[purplefan]

I am truly sorry for the wrong word i used on my post. I hope people do not think i used that word deliberately. It was a genuine mistake and i hope that you will forgive me for any offense.

[Jaquaia]

I think we all know that you would not deliberately say anything to upset or cause offense. I do think however, that when posting on such a sensitive subject, it's wise to re-read what you've said a few times before posting. It's such an emotive subject and if you're lucky enough not to have any experience of it, I think it's hard to understand exactly how much it can affect people, itms?

[purplefan]

point taken Jaquaia. Once again truly sorry for the deep offense i caused.

[Suzi]

I am closing this thread as we all know that this is a really emotive subject and that one of the issues with forums/text is that you can't see the person behind the words and it's not possible to sort out any miscommunication immediately.

I also know that Purplefan would never ever post something to offend or upset deliberately and I know he's really upset about any pain he's caused.