Its no better on benefits, before I met Jay there could be two or maybe three days a week I lived on just drinking coffee so that I had food for my eldest and my middle one to eat, so I never went out, I had no money for babysitters, no support from family and was somewhere that I hadn't lived very long so very few friends.
But even now I do isolate myself yet I have support and friends here where I am, I still don't go out unless I have to.