Yes Paula, I don't really want to post on a public forum but yes there are lots of triggers which have happened which I believe have set off severe depression for him. I have tried to reach out to him, help, back off, give space, offer support, offer to try come up with a plan etc etc but he's just totally shut us out completely. While it's had to accept I understand his behaviour is not "him" it's devastating to watch the destruction it's causing. I know there's nothing I can do unless he lets me but I feel so hopeless when it come to supporting our daughter through it all.