To be just as blunt as Suzi, what your colleague said is a load of bull. Look at how strong Paula's relationship is with her husband, he accepts and loves her for everything that she is. Look at how strong Suzi's relationship is, her and Marc accept each other completely and support each other no matter what. I've lost count of the number of times that J has held me while I cried or just sat talking me through a meltdown over the phone. He knows that I'm a little bit broken and he just tells me that he's a model-maker and he has plenty of glue to help put me back together. He loves me for exactly who I am, the same as Si loves Paula, the same as Marc and Suzi love each other through all of their health problems. True love sees past all of that, it sees the person you are. But how is anyone gojng to see who you are if you hide yourself away???