I’d this the part I park the emotions and concentrate on just being a good stable friend at this stage? And see what comes of it ?
I’d this the part I park the emotions and concentrate on just being a good stable friend at this stage? And see what comes of it ?
Hi Hudson, sorry about the delayed welcome.
In my experience, it is possible to be friend’s with an ex - in fact I am friends with my ex husband. However, I think it’s dangerous to be friends with someone only because you hope you're going to have more. So, what do you really think is likely to happen?
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
I can be friends it’s just so raw that I need space to break the feelings i ultimately have for her. But when she texts everyday it’s difficult because it’s a reminder to me that I have these feelingsOriginally Posted by Paula
And I don’t want to come across as insensitive and say hey cut the contact because at this moment she seems to be opening up more and letting me in more to her past albeit with no relationship tag attached
They’re is more she’s divulging day by day and perhaps my sympathetic ear and understanding is what she needs at this stage of her recovery
But you're her friend and not her counsellor? Maybe she needs pushing towards drs and counselling?
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I agree and she is going to speak to her doctor about that
I have also told her to help speed up the process she could go to a private therapist but she wants to speak to the doctor first before taking the next step
Just make sure that while you're trying to do the right thing for her,that you aren't sacrificing your own happiness.....
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Thanks, im trying hard to occupy my mind and keep myself busy and not let her consume its but its tough at times, im sure with time and space that will ease
Are you taking care of the basics? Eating and drinking properly? Getting some exercise?
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Yes, im doing plenty of walking/ running and talking things through with my family
they have been supportive
i suppose the hardest thing to comprehend is that for some reason after all her talk of wanting to live together and spend the rest of our lives together and asking me not to leave her side when she has a bad spell, to then all of a sudden change her mind completely for no reason is the hardest thing to deal with in it all - suppose the highs and lows of depression and anxiety do this
It can be...
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