Definitely take Rose up on that one. She knows what she's talking about!
Definitely take Rose up on that one. She knows what she's talking about!
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
I'm going to be blunt here and say that you come across as 'entitled'. Your posts read as though you have the right to have a girlfriend because you're a 'nice guy'. You don't actually come across as the 'nice guy' if I'm being honest. Relationships don't fall into your lap, they take work- a lot of work. Most people meet their significant others either through work, friends or common interests. You've been given quite a lot of advice about how to develop your interests and work opportunities and I really hope you take the advice and offers of help up. I know it's difficult getting out there but clubbing (which you say you hate) and sites like POF (which is basically a cattle market) aren't really where you should be looking for friends. Why not join a paying website where you'll meet a better quality of match?
I have to add that your obsession with porn isn't going to do you any favours as it's possibly distorted your view of women. I'm not suggesting this makes you a bad person, just that I don't think it'll help you in your quest to find a partner.
As you use Facebook, why not join some groups on there that interest you? I've made some really excellent friends through activism on Facebook, some of whom I'll probably never meet in real life owing to geography but some others who've become lifelong friends.
As for the women who didn't want to talk on the phone, it's not that unusual, believe me. I rarely even talk to my family on the phone never mind someone I've yet to meet!
And lastly, it won't do you any favours to see any women you do meet as a future mate straight away. I can't speak for all women, obviously, but if I think I'm being pursued for anything other than friendship when I first meet someone it can make me beat a hasty retreat!
I appreciate ur lengthy post Mrs Darling. I don't value myself at all, that's why I'm always in my room. I went out Sat for my birthday, had a dance, but I've no confidence to speak to women. Seeing beautiful girls all tarted up makes even more desperate & depressed. I always come home from these occasions feeling worse because people encourage me to 'enjoy myself & pull'.
Its just not in my nature yet I desire it so much. My boss hasn't given me any shifts either this week because of new staff. I don't fit in there anyway because people dismiss anythin I have to say but still it gets me around people..
First off, 'beautiful women all tarted up' really?? That's so disrespectful. And going out to 'enjoy yourself and pull' is completely the wrong way to go about finding someone. If you want a relationship, you need to meet people outside of the cattle market.
Again, I am very unconfortable with the way you talk about women. You keep saying you're respectful yet you have never come across that way.
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
Seeing beautiful girls all tarted up makes even more desperate & depressed
"Tarted up?" Really? Not a respectful way of talking about women....
Are you actively looking for other jobs?
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Sorry I should have said dolled up. Clubs are a minefield for rejection tbh.. People always say to me 'try & pull' but my response is always I'm here to dance not to pull. And ye Suzi, well around 10 applications a week.
"Dolled up" isn't any better, seriously. Clubs are a minefield for rejection as you say and not where you should really be looking for a potential partner. The world is a minefield for rejection, it's how you deal with it that matters. I do feel for you but your attitude towards women needs some working on, I'm afraid to say.Originally Posted by SA89
Did you take up the offer from the other forum member (Paula?) to look at your CV?
I also think you need to think about how you talk about women.
Let's start at the beginning - what kind of jobs are you applying for?
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Nooooo! "Dressed up" is probably the best phrase to use.
If I at least had friends I wouldn't be so desperate for a woman in my life. Its so easy to make acquaintances but I always get stuck makin plans with people. I always see people ringin each other, hangin out & it all looks seamless to them without prior arrangement. Some of these people are dry as a slice of white bread yet they have great social lives. I just don't get it at all
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