I went to a few clubs today in Manchester with my family & got leathered off 4 cocktails. I was up dancin all night showin some confidence but I still couldn't attract any girl. I'm not a bad lookin guy & my hearts in the right place but I've never had a gf. It gets me down because its so frustrating. I agree Samantha & I like the thinking of doing somethin regardleess of how u feel, goin to clubs though makes me feel worse.
Then don't go to clubs. They're meat markets. Clubbing doesn't really qualify as finding interests ......
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
Never said you should go to (dance) clubs. I suggested join a sports club. It's known that exercise boost your confidence, energy level and is good for people with depression.
Did you speak to any girls at the nightclub?
Dear goodness, I hated clubbing!
What things do you enjoy?
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
at my cousins 21st today each time I spoke I was put down. I was told 'i'll never get p****' (cat reference) & people were laughin at me sayin I watch porn in my room. Each time I gave my input some girl told me 'no one cares what I think'. This is why I hate these gatherings because people go on at me about how I need to come out my shell. I know my life sucks but people just love to remind me..
I know there are strange people in the world, however, I have never heard of behaviour like this. You say you are a nice person, why would someone give you a response like this? People fool around and make fun of each other. But this doesn't seem the case. Did something happen in the past why people react to you in this way? I would say, stay away from them. Go away, start a new life where nobody knows you! Even at a age of 21, people are normally more respectful.
rose (09-07-15)
I think there's 2 potential reasons behind this, either you have some awful people in your life, or you aren't acting like the sort of person you tell us in real life (and talk like you talk here). Tbh, most people are decent so I don't understand how you surround yourself with people who aren't.
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
I think someone would have to be a seriously horrible person to have that stuff said to them by anyone nice. I can only assume that everyone you associate yourself with is incredibly spiteful and nasty. I agree with Sam; get away from there and never look back.
It does sound like you are surrounded by horrible, rude and abusive people all around you - be it at home, work or social situations...
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
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