Anxiety & Depression Hell..*TRIGGERS*

[SA89]

Erm hunni, people are very different when they are sober and not in a nightclub!

ye I've noticed that, people seem like some 'plastic' version of themselves when they're out. I've just returned myself from a busy pub & it was just a miserable experience for me. Watchin from the sidelines as strangers dance & I sip my bitterly disgusting lager. These bars really trigger my depression & loneliness. I've found that u really have to be in the mood but with depression ur never in the mood. People ask me to go out with thm like my vile brother who gets girls approachin him & sayin how gorgeous he is with his Zayne 1D stylin.. My self-esteem is fragile as it is without this s*** thrown in my face .

[Paula]

Then don't go ......

[SA89]

Then don't go ......

I don't usually.. I've only been out about 4 times this year. Alcohols best avoided with depression, problem is depression doesn't go away & I can't be a hermit all my life. I've noticed a little simple cycle with my depression, the key is to try & sustain a positive movement >

Pro-activity towards insecurities = Better mood = More positive social interactions
In-activity towards insecurities = Bad mood = Worse social interactions

[Paula]

Do you have any hobbies or interests that could get you socialising with like minded people?

[Angie]

How about bowling? or sports or going to the gym where you can meet people ?

[Suzi]

You don't have to go out to clubs to meet people. What about something like amateur dramatics? Even if you don't like acting, there are always stage hand jobs or something? Do you sing? What about a choir? What about sports?

[rose]

Did you say people ask you to go out with them? If so, why don't you go?

[SA89]

Well I'm gonna do some more voluntary at another mental health service as a project support worker. I've asked someone out for a drink on facebook to which she said 'ye maybe' but she doesn't talk on the phone so I don't know how I would meet her :\.. My anxiety is really bad right now, nothing good ever happens to me. I'm extremely insecure & worry about the worst outcome because the worst is 'norm' for me ..

[Amaya]

If that's how you feel, but you still managed to ask the question.. then you are actually doing pretty well at social interaction even if you don't feel like it. And whether any one person responds how you would like or not, at least the people you would want in your life will respond at some point.

[rose]

Well done for asking her out, even though you feel anxious about things, and well done for sorting the voluntary work.