Anxiety & Depression Hell..*TRIGGERS*

[Paula]

My children once asked me how often I get depressed. I told them I'm always depressed, it's just sometimes I manage it better. That applies to me, I hasten to add, and not to everybody but I hope it's a good illustration that looking after yourself, watching for signs of a slip and adjusting your lifestyle when needed can help keep a crisis at bay. It doesn't always work, I'm not going to pretend otherwise, but it does work enough to make it worth the effort of trying. I feel like I'm rambling so I'm sorry if I don't make sense

[SA89]

My children once asked me how often I get depressed. I told them I'm always depressed, it's just sometimes I manage it better. That applies to me, I hasten to add, and not to everybody but I hope it's a good illustration that looking after yourself, watching for signs of a slip and adjusting your lifestyle when needed can help keep a crisis at bay. It doesn't always work, I'm not going to pretend otherwise, but it does work enough to make it worth the effort of trying. I feel like I'm rambling so I'm sorry if I don't make sense

Paula when u say watch for signs & adjust how is that possible when u have to face that trigger on a weekly basis. My workplace & its peer group triggers my depression really bad. I can be relatively fine all week then as soon as I'm around those people & girls that mess with my head it sends my self esteem plumeting. I'm uncomfortable with the majority 'clique' there & the girls keep givin me mixed signals (flirt with me thn some1 else straight after). Its so frustration especially when u've never had a gf.. And now I'm gonna drink the night away now in town & feel 10X more depressed & anxious ..

[Paula]

I think somehow you have to find the mental strength to stop these being triggers. I wonder if these girls really are flirting with you. I wonder if they're just being nice and pleasant and you're seeing it a different way - that particularly seems more likely when you say they constantly move on to others and flirting. Most women don't do that, I promise. Most women will be kind and pleasant to the people they work with and have daily contact with because it makes life easier and often because they're genuinely nice.

[Suzi]

Sweetheart why haven't you asked any of them out on a date?

[rose]

I think you need to change job.
And I am pretty sure that those girls aren't openly flirting with every guy there. And if they are, then they are doing it to everybody and its not personal.

[SA89]

I'll never understand until the day I die why women love these thugs. It were my brothers 18th 2night & it was an absolute train-wreck. He smashed up bar windows, threatened his gf & racist to the bouncers. Even threatened to stab a guy who flirted with his gf. I told them to take it easy but there's no reasoning with an aggressive drunk. Yet after all this she continues to forgive him & say how cute he is the nxt day. I'm done with this bs, I've got my own demons to tackle ..

[Suzi]

Thing is until someone stands up to him or reports him and he is arrested then he will continue to do the same.

[rose]

How old is his girlfriend?

[SA89]

she's 17, they both have ADHD & it shows, constantly seekin attention. Today they're 'normal' like last nights serious aggression never happened. I remember gettin in 2 strangers car with my cousin 'because it was cold' then he drove so fast we could hav gone through the windscreen!. Never again am I goin out with my brother. I forgot my tablet as well & I'm back to feelin low now through that toxic alcohol (& I only had 3 ..).

[rose]

She is 17, that's quite young really, perhaps she thinks true love is all about standing by your man. I used to think that when I was 17. She probably needs some girlfriends around her to open her eyes.