What other interests do you have? Anything that would help you get out and meet like minded people? Maybe team sports, or a book/movie club? A friend of mine recently joined a walking club and they ramble all over the county and stop at pubs or coffee shops along the way. A good way to meet people, get outside and exercise. All good for your mental health.
Do you work with people you get on with?
Have you thought about renting out a room to someone? Might give you some company?
Why don't you want to go out lovely?
Would you please think about going and telling all this to your Dr?
Favourite Disney movie?
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
I tried to join a local group today, but currently they don't have the staff to run it. There is a couple of other groups, but when they meet up it clashes with my work shift, so it would not be possible. I want to change my shifts at work, but for financial reasons I can't until maybe the end of this year.
I agree with what you say about going out. I have been watching a lot of streaming TV (films/documentaries) again.
I miss talking to people, being with people. It's like I'm in solitary confinement, but I am not just the prisoner but the jailer too.
Most of them are OK, but nobody closely get on with. A few know of my depression, but they have their own lives.
I used to rent out a room, i did it for 3 years, 3 different tenants. I had to rent out as I was in financial difficulty. I was lucky as they were all OK, well apart from one who was a bit odd at times.
I see little use to see my doctor as it's the loneliness that I need to get rid of first, but thanks for the concern.
What kind of social groups are you trying to join? Have you tried organisations such as meetup.com?
It sounds as if this is more than loneliness, but I'm not a dr... Keeping in touch with your GP is always a good plan....
Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!
Just to add a little input from me as your narrative resonates with me. I'm in a very similar place to you my friend, so I feel your pain.
I'm a middle aged guy, massive flare up of anxiety and depression. Like you I have past painful relationships, am very socially isolated with social anxiety. Makes it doubly difficult.
Sometimes I'm so low I don't want to see anyone or look any stranger in the eye. The loneliness hurts and that causes just mega negative self talk and rumination.
Your ideal scenario you mentioned , I have one part, the place by the sea. Need to work on the other two.
What I'm doing at the moment is trying to eat clean, exercise, try and volunteer and get a full review by a specialist for treatment. I've even bought a light therapy lamp. I use it first thing 8n the morning for about 15 mins. My mornings are the worst.
Even getting out of bed and going to the loo is a trial.
I'm here to chat buddy if you like. Your metaphor about being your own jailer couldve been written for my feelings.
Hang in there
Suzi (24-01-22)
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