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Thread: Having a difficult couple of days *AB Triggers*

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    Boss Lady ;) Suzi's Avatar
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    You haven't spoken to your GP since 21st July? Hunni, go back and see them.
    You haven't done anything wrong lovely. I was wondering if you'd ever thought about specific counselling. It's something that I know lots of us have had/are having.... It's not right for everyone, but it is definitely worth thinking about....
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    Sorry, didn't mean to double post....I was just writing as I was thinking. Like a specific sexual abuse counsellor? I don't know

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    Hunni, unfortunately this is never going to be resolved unless you talk about it. ADs can only do so much when there’s trauma in the past like you’ve suffered. Please talk to your doctor, and please make that referral to counselling. Love, you deserve to be at peace with yourself

    As for your partner, as you’ve been together 7 years, he surely loves you and only wants the best for you…..

    Hunni, I’ve added a trigger warning to your thread. It’s nothing to be concerned about, it just ensures that anyone who might struggle with what’s discussed, can be warned
    The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.

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    I totally agree with Paula. It's essential that you get some more support. Why are you so reluctant to tell him what's going on? He might be more understanding about why you're taking meds etc
    Do a little of something that makes you happy every day!


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    I don't think it would make a difference. I remember watching something with him a few months ago when the abuser was close in age and my other half said it was "kids being kids" and he felt sorry for the abuser....my brothers are close in age...one is 1 year older and the other 6 years older. I don't want to hear him say it to me

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    But, maybe, because he loves you, that mindset will be challenged
    The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.

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    I agree. Sweetheart if your relationship isn't built on truth and trust then how can you expect him to change? I know how hard it was to tell my now husband. I did though and all he's ever done is love and support me the best he can. BUT I am not you, you are not me. We both have different paths etc... You have to do what is right for you, when it is right to do so...
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