Enough is enough, I'm emotionally trapped

[Mattypompy]

It's hard, but maybe it's time to cut yourself a safe space away from her for a while?

Hey there.

Yes you're so right. The same toxic pathology repeats itself. I don't think it can change. I have identified quite a lot of contradictory aspects to her behaviour. I'm convinced that there's a deep inner bitterness towards me, and an in denial self righteous emotional pain that she projects onto me to improve her self esteem.

I need to be strong and disciplined.

Thanks 👌

[Strugglingmum]

Actually what you need lovely is to realise you are worth so much more than that, that you dont need to be around that sort of treatment, nor do you need to accept it.
It's ok to be kind to you and not accept this sort of treatment as inevitable or excusable. It took me a very long time to realise and believe it was ok to cut a family member out of my life but once I did, I started to improve with my mental health.
Family isn't just about blood, it's the people who love and accept us just the way we are and treat us in that way.

[Suzi]

SM is so totally right. You are worth so much more than how you allow her to treat you.

[OldMike]

SMum is spot on with her analysis, sometimes people can be just nasty and by putting people down makes them feel better, enough of the fireside psychology just don't let it get to you.